Grieving a Loss to Suicide
If you’re visiting this page, you’ve likely experienced one of the most painful and devastating experiences of your life: losing a loved one to suicide. You may be feeling a host of emotions in the wake of this loss: guilt, shock, anger, sorrow, or even relief. Although you may feel misunderstood or isolated by those around you, you are not alone in your grief journey. We’re here to help you cope with these emotions.
For those bereaved by a loss to suicide, the most helpful support may come from someone who has been through a similar loss. Our Grief Support Services provide peer support to people who have lost loved ones to suicide, also known as suicide loss survivors. These services focus on nonjudgmental listening and compassion, and are free of charge.
Our Grief Support Services
SafePlaceSamaritans’ SafePlace meetings are open groups of caring people who have lost a loved one to suicide. SafePlace peer support groups for suicide loss survivors are facilitated by trained volunteers who have also lost a loved one to suicide. SafePlace is not a professional therapy group, but rather a peer support group providing a forum for exploring feelings often not understood by others. It offers a chance to share helpful resources, and to give and get support through the long process of grieving. Meetings are free, ongoing, and drop-in.
In light of recommendations for physical distancing, SafePlace meetings will be held virtually via Zoom until we’re able to resume meeting in person safely. When it is safe to meet in person again, we will resume our SafePlace meetings throughout the Greater Boston and MetroWest area.
We understand there are many complicating factors when deciding to attend a virtual support group: the unknowns that can come following a loss to suicide, grieving during a pandemic, and moving the meeting format from in person to virtual. With that in mind, we want to help address any understandable concerns people may have, and have developed Virtual SafePlace FAQs in hopes of answering your questions.
Virtual meetings take place on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday evenings from 6:30 – 8:00 p.m. Please register for the meetings and we will send you a Zoom meeting invitation with details.
Groups run continuously throughout the year except for federal holidays. There may be cancellations for inclement weather. If a meeting is cancelled, prior participants will be emailed and the cancellation will be listed on this page. For more information, email [email protected].
Survivor to Survivor Visits
Talking about such a tremendous loss can be overwhelming for some. If you’re not ready to attend a support group or if you need some extra time outside of SafePlace meetings, our volunteers are available to offer individualized support. During Survivor to Survivor Visits, trained suicide loss survivor volunteers meet with bereaved individuals or families in their homes or another comfortable setting. Volunteers are available to listen, answer questions, and provide support and resources.
To schedule a Survivor to Survivor remote visit, contact our Grief Support Services team.
During the pandemic, our trained volunteers are available to offer support via Zoom video calls or phone calls. If you’re looking to connect with volunteers outside of our virtual SafePlace meeting, please contact our Grief Support Services team to schedule a peer support call.
What happens during a Survivor to Survivor Visit?
Survivor to Survivor Visits last up to two hours and allow the survivor to talk about their experience, ask questions, and share concerns. The main role of the team members is to listen and befriend. Volunteers may provide information about SafePlace meetings, Samaritans’ 24/7 Helpline, and other community resources. If the participant chooses, they can develop a plan that could include up to five more visits. Dates and times are arranged by Grief Support Services staff, in accordance with the volunteers and the family members.
What support is provided?
Trained volunteers who have themselves lost a loved one to suicide are available to listen, talk, answer questions, and provide resources. When appropriate, volunteers may share stories and examples of ways they coped with the death of their loved one. Our hope is having this contact will help alleviate some of the isolation and confusion often felt by survivors.
Who are the team members sent on Survivor to Survivor Visits?
Team members are survivors of suicide loss who have had time to regain their strength. They are carefully screened and trained by Samaritans’ staff to offer trustworthy support, and have been trained in befriending people who are grieving the loss of a loved one to suicide. Volunteers provide this service to the community in pairs.
Who can I bring with me to the Survivor to Survivor Visit?
Participants are welcome to invite family members or friends who could benefit from the meeting or make the experience more helpful. They may also choose to meet with the team members by themselves for the first time, with the option to invite others to later meetings. Some people find these visits helpful when they’re not ready to get to a support group or perhaps just want some additional time to talk outside of the group. If you would like someone under the age of 18 to participate, please see our guidelines for minor participation.
Find Support for Your Community
In addition to our individual and family services, we offer support to communities coping with a suicide loss. Our team is available to meet with members of the community who would like to talk about their experiences and the complex grief following a loss to suicide. We are available to discuss common reactions, coping strategies, and resiliency building. To schedule a community support workshop, contact our Grief Support Services team.
After Suicide: Understanding Your Grief
After Suicide: Understanding Your Grief presentations are geared towards people who are grieving a loss to suicide, and those who care for them, including clinicians, friends, extended family, and others. The goal is to help survivors better understand suicide and the grief that may happen when a suicide occurs. Presentations are hosted periodically, and our website will be updated when the next round of presentations is scheduled.
Suicide Bereavement Clinician Training
Suicide loss survivors often need a level of support that goes beyond traditional grief counseling. In partnership with Riverside Trauma Center, we periodically host a workshop designed for mental health professionals who may provide grief therapy for suicide loss survivors. It provides a focused overview of the impact of suicide on survivors, and the clinical and support responses needed after a suicide occurs. Our website will be updated when the next round of presentations is scheduled.
More Ways to Find Comfort
Remember Your Loved One at the Annual Memorial
Each January, Samaritans hosts a memorial to remember and honor our loved ones lost to suicide. We invite you to join the event to reconnect, find support, and share memories. All members of the greater Samaritans community, even those who have not lost someone to suicide, are welcome to join us for this powerful event.
Celebrate Life at the 5K Run/Walk for Suicide Prevention
More than 2,500 runners, walkers, volunteers, and spectators gather together in celebration of life each fall at the 5K Run/Walk for Suicide Prevention. The 5K provides an important sense of community for suicide loss survivors and creates a space for us to remember our loved ones lost to suicide. You can be a part of this incredible day.
Lost Someone to Suicide and Ready to Help Others?
Samaritans’ Grief Support Services volunteers have been personally impacted by a loss to suicide and are at a place in their own healing which allows them to help others as they travel a similar path after a tragic loss. If you have been deeply touched by a loss to suicide and would like to help other loss survivors, please review our volunteer requirements and complete our volunteer inquiry form.
Hear the Journeys of Suicide Loss Survivors
While a loss from suicide can be an incredibly isolating experience, many people have walked this path before. At Samaritans, there is a community of loss survivors who understands your pain.